A couple of weeks ago I had to go to court concerning a former employer. I dreaded it, but I knew that it was something that I had to do. As I sat across the table from her and listened to her say things that weren’t true, I wondered how would or should I defend myself. In my mind of course I had visions of me jumping across the table and choking her (a scene straight out of mean girls) But surprisingly I stayed calm. I defended myself by telling the truth and deciding not to let someone take my peace. In the end the judge ruled in my favor.
I went to interview for a freelance position and after listening to all that was required of me and knowing all that I would bring to the table. I wanted to negotiate a fair salary. The client basically said that she has interviewed many talented people in the industry and they would work for less. Again, the crazy Lisa wanted to respond to her email using some really colorful language ( and I do mean colorful!) but instead I let her know that maybe she needs to hire them. I thanked her for her time.
In the first situation it would have been easy to blowup and try my hardest and loudest to convince the judge that I was a good person with integrity. The second situation again I could have tried to convince the client that I was really, really talented and take the lower salary. I mean having some money is better than no money at all, right? But I decided not to compromise who I was, or talent and most of all my integrity. My integrity is not for sale. My talent and creativity is not located in the bargain basement. I felt a little taller, and most of all strong. Really, I felt like a bad ass. Granted I’m a bad-ass without a steady income, but I’m a bad-ass none the less. Your integrity, the wonderful person you are, these things should not be taken for granted and they can not be taken from you unless you allow them to. Don’t go through life settling for less or accepting less . Remember your greatness.
“Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.”
? Barbara De Angelis